Even if you're writing a story that doesn't focus on a particular historic incident, consider the culture you lived in at the time of the story and do what you can to show yourself as part of that time and culture....
You hear about the amazing memoir that everyone’s reading, that book that’s been at the top of the New York Times best-seller list for months. But you don’t want to read it. You find that best-selling memoirs can throw you off track with your own writing. Sound like you? As...

For many years I celebrated Thanksgiving at a friend’s rustic cabin in Jenner, on California’s stunning North Coast. There is no electricity in this two-story cabin my friend built, and no cell service, but the big room where four friends gather to sauté mushrooms for a gravy on the propane...

In a poem titled “The Sound of One Fork,” Minnie Bruce Pratt writes, "I am alone in a solitude that vibrates like the cicada in hot midmorning…” What does solitude sound like?...
Sometimes you need to have an experience in the present to collect ambient details for a scene you’re writing from the past. Writers notice. It’s part of our creative work. We practice being aware of what's going on around us so we can add some of that ambient detail to...

I grew up tuned in to the radio. In the late sixties my station was 93 KHJ, “Boss Radio.” I knew the words to every song. In the early seventies I was still singing along, even to songs like Don McClean’s “American Pie,” with verses that went on even when...

Reflection deepens a story. Reflection personalizes. And better yet, when a story is personalized by using reflection—when you include how you were affected—a story has a better chance of drawing a reader in. With memoir you want not only to write about what has happened in your life, you also...

All the best writers do it. They develop a piece as they write subsequent drafts, improving the writing every time. Philip Roth says, “The book really comes to life in the rewriting.” Joyce Carol Oates says most of her time writing is really rewriting. John Irving says, “Maybe as much...

I compare publishing a book to having a baby. The nine-month pregnancy—writing the book—is the first part. The life that follows the birth is the rest of the story. In ways, you’re done—you’ve finished writing the book. In other ways, you’ve only just begun....
Calendars are key to getting your writing time. Write your writing time into your weekly calendar like the important appointment it is. Set the length of time for it and stick to it....

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